support the job free

It seems like everywhere I turn, someone is talking about someone they know losing a job. Having been there, I can say it is a tough thing. It isn't just about the money. For many a job is a large part of their identity. It makes sense given that when meeting new people one of the most frequently asked openers is, what do you do.

With that in mind, I thought I would offer a few ideas on how to support family and friends who may be in this position. Again, it isn't always about money, but that can't hurt either.

One of the most important things to remember is that job loss, although it may sometimes seem that way, is not a disease. Nor is it contagious. Avoid treating someone who has lost a job like they have the chicken pox.

Also, don't make every contact you have with your friend be about job searching. Trust me when I say that your friend is aware that they don't have a job.

Make sure you have a copy of your friend's resume, or at least have a general idea of the type of job they are looking for. This will help ensure that if something comes your way, you are not wasting anyone's time.

Listen to your friend. Check in and see how they are doing. Ask what you can do to help.

Don't be surprised if you friend seems to become aloof. It isn't personal. They have a lot to process and may feel overwhelmed or like a burden. You may need to be the better friend this time.

When inviting a friend who has lost a job out, keep in mind that his or her budget has tightened. Suddenly a movie or sushi night may be a luxury. Maybe it is time to dust off the DVD player or those board games in your closet.


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