gift picks from vromans bookstore

Yesterday I attended an event with the buyers at Vroman's Bookstore. Initially I was the only attendee - there were three buyers! Thankfully two more people joined us, so it was at least equal.

The idea was to spend your lunch hour at the bookstore and learn about what the buyer's think are good bets for the holiday season. There were books, gifts, and stationary. All of the buyers were enthisiastic about their picks. And unlike what the chain bookstores offer up in their newsletters, most all of these titles were new to me. There were actually some great ideas for those hard to shop for - namely older men.

Here are the books that were recommended:

Great Military Leaders and Their Campaigns by Jeremy Black: This is a beautiful coffee table book. It contains concise and beautifully illustrated biographies of great military leaders from Cyrus the Great in the sixth century BC to Vo Nguyen Giap in the twentieth century. Perfect for the military buff on your list.

The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Steig Larsson: The author of this book recently died, but he left behind three mystery novels. This is the first. All three books will be published. Also each book is self-contained, so no cliff hangers to wait for the next book. This would make a great gift for a mystery lover, although the buyer noted that she wasn't a fan of mysteries, yet enjoyed this book greatly - it was hard to put down. You can read an excerpt here.

What Makes a Child Lucky by Gioia Timpanelli: This beautifully told novella is set in rural Sicily is about survival. A boy is kidnapped by the murderers of his best friend. A good gift choice for the women on your list that enjoy reading.

Obsessed with Star Wars by Benjamin Harper: This is a must-have for any Star Wars fan. With over 2000 trivia questions about the movies, books, comics, and games, even the biggest fan is sure to be stumped. There is a gizmo contained in the book that lets you select your answer and alerts you if you are correct (or not). In addition to the trivia questions there are photos and information about everything Star Wars.

Birdscapes: A Pop-Up Celebration of Bird Songs in Stereo Sound by Miyoko Chu and Cornell Lab of Omithology: This was the most impressive book I have seen in a while. The pop-up scenes are amazing. When you open a page, the birds sing. A pull out on the page explains which birds you are hearing. Great gift for bird and nature lovers.

National Geographic Society's Exploration Experience: The Heroic Exploits of the World's Greatest Explorers by Beau Riffenburgh: Another beautiful book. This one comes in a case and contains replicas of letters and maps tucked within its pages. Nice idea for a family with school aged children. It is like having a tiny history museum at your disposal.

The Lump of Coal by Lemony Snicket: Last year Lemony Snicket told us about latkes (see above). This year it is the story of a lump of coal. This is a very funny story about a lump of coal that escapes from a bag of charcoal who tries to find a brighter future. Great for all ages. This year's format is small enough to fit into a stocking.

Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell: This book is sure to make it onto many lists. Gladwell is also the author of Tipping Points and Blink. He was recently interviewed on NPR. His ties Asian math prowess to growing rice and plane crashes to cultural norms.

A Platter of Figs and Other Recipes by David Tanis and Alice Waters (forward): David Tanis spends six months of the year in the kitchens of Chez Panisse, and the remainder of the year in France. This cookbook is filled with beautiful photographs and recipes that are simple to make and encourage the use of seasonal ingredients. This is a book any food lover would appreciate.

Next up: Non-book ideas!

guide to reclaiming the holidays, or guilt is not a holiday tradition

Yes, I know that yesterday I was all about holiday cards and how even in early November, time is of the essence. This post may seem contradictory, but really it isn't. This is my annual day to rant about the commercialization of the holidays. Every year it seems I post this sooner, as the line of demarcation keeps getting drawn further and further away. This year I know I saw Christmas items moving in as the end of summer sale was starting to clear the aisles. They were already playing holiday carols on the weekend Today Show (I don't know why I was watching that either). Read on and take action.

Conversations with friends have reminded me that sometimes we all need to step back and remember what we are celebrating. I suppose I should step back here for a minute and state for the record that I love Christmas. I love the decorations – from the fancy themed department store window displays to the Charlie Brown Christmas trees. I love the music – my holiday collection is huge and I know it drives some people nuts. I love the traditions – from hanging stockings to special recipes that have been handed down several generations. I even love the cards – from finding just the right one down to the stamp that goes on the front. All of these things connect us to others and remind of where we come from. What I can’t stand is the notion that you have to spend, spend, spend – because that my friends is what tears us apart.

Don’t get me wrong, for those that have more money than they could ever know what to do with, I say go for it, especially if you remember the little people along the way. But most of us, aren’t close to having those kinds of problems. I’ll say it again because it still rings true: Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa is every day that we have a roof over our heads, food on the table, and people who love us. The terrorists don’t win if you spend beyond your means and literally spend the next decade or more paying off the interest payments. When families are forced to live paycheck to paycheck so they can keep up with the Jones, no one wins. It truly is that simple.

If you sit down and get kids to open up, they really don’t want (most) a new bike or the latest video game system. Children want to spend quality time (a little one-on-one) with Mom or Dad (or both). Remember that when the urge strikes to go over your budget – think about how many late nights you will need to spend at the office to pay for it.

That doesn’t mean I am totally against the whole present thing either – I just think it should be done within the spirit of the season and your means. How many times have you received a present that a) was so not you, it wasn’t even funny, b) felt guilty because you knew the giver had spent too much, and/or c) wish they really hadn’t? True, there is something to the notion it is that thought that counts. But if you believe that, then be thoughtful this holiday season – to all parties concerned. Because, again be honest, how many times have you a) bought someone something because you felt you had to, b) had no idea what to get someone but got them something anyway, and/or c) went over budget because of these feelings of obligation and guilt? The holiday season shouldn’t be so painful. That’s not what they are about.

Fret not. Hope is not lost. Here is my updated guide to enjoying the season. It’s not too late to catch the true spirit of the holidays. In fact, there is plenty of time to turn the tides and make this the best holiday season yet!:

Set expectations. This is probably most important. Let your friends and family (including kids old enough to understand) you plan to do things a little different this year. Of course, be sure to share some of the highlights of the fun things you have planned instead, and let the excitement begin.

Get creative. Grab your local paper or go on line and see what’s going on this season. Maybe tickets to the Nutcracker (there is lots of great community theatre out there) and make a night of it. Where are the best places to see the lights? Pack some hot cocoa and bring your camera. If you belong to a church or synagogue, investigate what activities they will be offering (midnight mass isn’t always at midnight). Don’t forget your library. Chances are good there are fliers posted with music concerts, art making, and perhaps even caroling opportunities. Also many museums have free days around the holidays. Why not take advantage?

Get everyone involved. It’s no fun if someone does all the planning. Have a brainstorming session. Ask what they want to experience this holiday season. Make sure at least one idea from each person is included in your plans. Learning to compromise is important. Also assign age-appropriate tasks to help everything come together. Share the work of gathering information, ordering tickets, making reservations, inviting other, and so on, with the entire family so no one is overburdened.

Plan ahead. Sit down and mark out your plans, and make sure everyone in your family gets a copy. Remember that since you will not be shopping and running around like a crazy person, you will have time on your hands, so have fun and enjoy the simple joys of the holiday season.

Make a gift list Decide who you would like to give a gift and a budget. Here are so no-to-low cost ideas:

• Coupons. This was my Mom’s favorite and better received that you might think. Gifts of time (a day with you, baby-sitting, errand running, a week of your kid’s chores, etc.) are always appreciated. If appropriate, kisses and back rubs are nice too. Don’t forget to put expiration dates and if you like, make some redeemable for a particular time of year when you have more time/money.


• Use your talents. If you love to cook or knit or sew, the ideas are limitless. If you have a knack for music, put together a mix of your favorite songs. Did you take an amazing photo this year? Find an inexpensive frame and presto! If you have a dozen or so you love, make a calendar.


• Write a letter. Not one of those awful over-the-top-my-family-is-better-than-yours end of the year holiday updates though. Tell someone how you really feel. Let them know you care and think of them. Also what you hope for them. It is one of the simplest things to do; yet you’d be surprised how much this can mean to another. Speak from your heart and spelling and grammar won’t matter.


• De-clutter. There is nothing wrong with giving a gently used book if you think the recipient would love it. Ms. Manners and other etiquette experts all agree that there is no harm in re-gifting (as long as you don’t make the grand faux pas of giving it back to the original gift-giver). In this category you may want to add passing down a treasured heirloom or even a family recipe. Just think of the goose bumps you would get if someone presented you with grandma’s pearls or Aunt Ida’s infamous eggnog recipe.


• Donate. Give a gift to your favorite cause (or a cause the recipient believes in) in their name. Most organizations are happy to provide you with a card or letter for the recipient. Plus you may be able to earn a deduction on your taxes (no harm in that).


• Do their homework. No, don't go digging up an essay so your niece sails through English 101. Here I am thinking about someone on your list that is going on a vacation or perhaps moving to a new town. Why not put together points of interest, restaurants, and other places of note. Trust me, this could easily be the best thing they ever received.


• Draw names. If you have a big family I have heard this works great. Everyone draws a name and a limit is put on the amount spent. This would also work well in families that have seen a sudden rise in little ones - this way the adults don't feel left out.

Shop locally. Support your local artists at a holiday fair or family owned specialty shop in town.

Use the Internet. If you want to buy a big-ticket item or a must-have toy, do a search on Google. See who is offering the best price. Also use Google (or other search engines) to see if a particular retailer is offering free shipping or other specials. Click, click and you are done. Items can be shipped to your office to make things easier and keep from ruining the surprise. Also if you haven't discovered Etsy, the holidays would be a good time. Artists from all over the world offer amazing crafts and artwork, many at good prices.

Give back. Again, you should find some time opening up without all the rushing around or looking for parking at the mall. But just an FYI – soup kitchens usually have more people then they know what to do with on actual holidays, so try to pick a day when people are needed and you and yours will feel more useful. Adopting a family is a great idea if you can, or on a smaller scale most malls/bookstores/kids stores will have trees filled with ornaments that represent a child’s wish. Also don't forgot about thanking the folks who helped make your holidays a little brighter.

It's okay to wish. Don’t be afraid to use wish lists. If you have generous family or friends who would like to get presents (especially for the little ones), it is perfectly fine to have a wish list. People who don’t have kids are often clueless about what to get, or afraid of getting something the child already has or in the wrong size. That said, I wouldn’t necessarily advertise it, but if they ask, why not make it easy? And of course, if you do use one, keep it current! Is your wish list current? Save yourself the hassle of returns.

Oh, and don’t forget Buy Nothing Day. Instead of going to the mall the Friday after Thanksgiving, resist the urge to spend any money. As the site says, for 24 hours every November we remember that no one was born to shop. There has to be something you would rather do than risk your life looking for parking at the mall.


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